Partner Counselling

Partner counselling is designed to help women try and understand their partner’s pornography use. For many women, their partner’s pornography use can be deeply hurtful, shocking and mystifying. Together we can talk about your individual circumstances and to try and make sense of what you’re going through.

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Who it helps

Partner counselling helps women who are faced with the harsh reality of their partner’s pornography use. I have experience with talking to dozens of men regarding their pornography use; I can use this to help women understand what their partner may be experiencing, why they were attracted to it, why they have stayed with it, and why they can’t give it up.

Why it works

When a partner become aware of their man’s pornography use, they can often be shocked, horrified and distressed; not only at what they have found but surprise at who their partner seems to be. Through partner counselling, partners of pornography users can expect to have some of their worst fears dispelled and to gain new ways of dealing with the situation.

What it’s for

The purpose of partner counselling is to help partners understand this new situation they are in and to better cope with it. We develop this increased capacity for coping through new techniques and skills, but also through gaining understanding about what’s going on.

What to expect

Firstly, you can expect to be treated with respect and understanding in partner counselling. You can also expect to better understand your partner’s use of pornography; this will include why he does it and why he finds it so difficult to give up. You can also expect to gain understanding about why it has affected you so strongly and ways to help you manage your strong reaction. Lastly, you can also expect to gain tools and techniques to help you manage the process of adapting to this very confronting situation.

Partner counselling for pornography addiction costs $120 per 50 minute session. As partner counselling is usually fairly brief, I do not offer a free initial consultation. However, if partner counselling is more extended, I make the fifth session free.

If you feel this is of interest to you, please contact me to set up the first session.